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How to Create a Power Packed Vision Board
So, everyone seems to be talking about the power of a Vision Board and you've finally decided to find out what all the hypes about! I have been creating and using vision boards for over 15 years and I find that a Vision Board is one of the best tools to use to support you in your quest to achieve your goals and manifest what you desire in your life.
What is a vision board? Basically, it's a collage-like project that you fill with images, words, and statements that reflect the kind of energy, growth, and development you want in your life.
Everyone uses visioning in their daily lives. When you use a vision board you're simply creating something tangible that reinforces the positive thoughts and advancing ideas in your mind and inviting more of that energy in your environment.
Many people want to know if a Vision Board actually works. In my experience, I would have to say yes they do. The reason why a vision board can work is that the board is a reflection of the thoughts we hold around something we desire to come into fruition in our lives. The board becomes a visual reminder resonating with the energy of what we desire.
Using a vision board can help you to clarify, focus on, and achieve your goals.
If you're ready to create your first vision board or you feel you need to tweak the one you have, here are some tips to help guide your way:
1. Brainstorm - Get a bunch of old magazines and photos of yourself, family, and friends that you may want to use on your board (all of this depends upon what you identified for the areas you want to
include on your board). Go through the magazines and tear or cut out all the images and words that 'speak' to you. These images and words should fit the categories you've decided to focus on and should be in line with your goals and dreams. Gather a large pile so you have a lot to pick from once you start finalizing your selections.
include on your board). Go through the magazines and tear or cut out all the images and words that 'speak' to you. These images and words should fit the categories you've decided to focus on and should be in line with your goals and dreams. Gather a large pile so you have a lot to pick from once you start finalizing your selections.
2. Organize - Start to arrange the images and words on the board in a way that feels good to you. Play around with things, moving them around until the layout feels right. Have fun creating the energy that will reflect the vision for your life.
Depending on the kind of board you're creating you might organize the board by categories. For example, you might design the placement of your categories like this:
Health Finances(your picture!)Relationship Career
You would place images and words that reflect your goals for health in the left corner and your finances in the right corner and so on. You can also write words or quotes on your board so you may want to leave some white space. At the center of the board, you can place a picture of you at your best or you could put a word in the center that has a powerful resonance that sums up what your board is all about.
If your vision board is a theme board, meaning it's dedicated to career or some other category than you don't need to arrange it by category.
3. Glue or tape everything down in a pattern that is pleasing to you. Then hang it somewhere you'll be able to see it every day.
DIFFERENT KINDS OF VISION BOARDS
There are also several kinds of vision boards. You might discover that one of these kinds of boards is just the one for you:
•Crystal Clear - This board is used when you have a very clear vision of what you want for your future. You'll be looking for exact images and sets of words. For example, you envision yourself going to Paris within one year. You'll look for a specific image that reflects Paris (Maybe an image of the Eiffel Tower) and maybe the word or number 1, etc. This board may not need any editing over the months because your goal is crystal clear.
•In flux - This board is used when you aren't sure what you want or you're not sure where you should go or what you should be doing. You'll be looking for images and words that speak to you in terms of fine-tuning your direction. This kind of board goes through much more editing than the Crystal Clear board.
•Themed - Use this style of the board if you're working on a single area of your life or maybe it's for your birthday or some other event. You may want to manifest something specific on your birthday. You could include the age you'll be and words that reflect what you want to achieve by your birthday or what you want for the event to be a success.
•Categories - You should give careful consideration to several areas of your life that you may want your vision board to reflect either singularly or as a whole: Purpose or Mission, Service, Finances, Spirit/Faith, Health, Relationship, Career, Business, etc.
You can design your board to include all or just some of the categories.
A vision board can work because you can use it as a visual reminder and to reinforce the thoughts you already have around your goals and dreams.
HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL USING A VISION BOARD
Use it - Looking at the board every day will cause you to always be aware of your dreams and goals.
Believe - Remember, a large part of your success with a vision board is believing that you deserve what is reflected on your board. This belief will become the catalyst for you to do what's necessary to meet your goals and achieve your dreams.
Update it - As your vision and dreams shift remember to update your vision board. You want what you've imagined in your mind to move into the tangible world with consistency.
Be patient & never give up - Keep using your vision board to help you to clarify and focus your goals and your dreams. Just because you put an image on your board and it isn't manifested in your life within 2 months doesn't mean that it doesn't work. You have to remain patient, use the tool, believe that you deserve what you've envisioned, and keep on living your life. It will come to pass if you keep the faith and allow the Universe to work seeming miracles.
There are also lots of online ways to create a virtual board. You can also load applications to your computer and have your vision board right on your desktop if you'd prefer to go that route.
Whichever format you use, a vision board is one of the most powerful ways to transform your mindset and your life!
How to develop a burning desire to achieve success?
How to develop a burning desire to achieve success?
We all know that a strong desire is needed to achieve any goal and success. The question many people ask is how to have a strong desire and will power?
What is the desire that is needed to achieve any goal you want? How does it feel like?
Before you develop a burning desire, you have first to understand what a burning desire is.
This can be explained best in the following story:
Once upon a time, a young man wanted to know how to have a burning desire to achieve his goals, so he went to China to ask a wise Chinese man how to have a strong and burning desire. The wise Chinese man got a large bowl of water and then put the young man’s head in the bowl of water for a few minutes. The young man started slowly to get his head out of the water but didn’t succeed.
After a few minutes, the young man shoved the wise Chinese man off and got his head out of the bowl of water. The young man asked, “What were you trying to do?” The wise Chinese man replied, “What did you learn from this experience?” The young man said, “Nothing.” Then, the wise Chinese man replied, “Yes, you learned something. At first, when you tried to get your head out of the bowl of water, you weren’t successful because your desire was not strong enough, but afterward, when your desire was strong, you were able to get your head out of the bowl of water and this is exactly the type of desire needed to achieve one’s goal.”
Now, let me ask you something. Do you have a strong and burning desire to achieve your goals? Do you have a burning desire to get up in the morning to do everything it takes to make your goal a reality? If you answer yes to these questions, then let us look at the one main step that will help you create a burning desire, so you can achieve every goal you want.
Understand why you want your goal
This is the most important question that you have to answer. Many people say they want something and after a while, they lose interest. Why? It is because they don’t know the real reason why they want this specific goal. Why do you want your goal? Does it give you freedom? Stability? Security? Without strong, burning desire and will power, you will give up quickly, you will not persist and hence you won‘t achieve what you had in mind. Knowing exactly why you want something, helps keep the burning desire awake inside of you at all times and it will lead you to take action.
Studies show that the best time to program your subconscious mind with an idea is before sleeping. Make sure before you sleep to think of your goal and why you want it. It is crucial to feeling the burning desire as feelings are energy and they will help you stay focused on your goal.
How To Determine Your Core Life Values
Want to figure out what fuels your desires? Watch this short video to discover what your core values are!
Finding Your Values So You Can Live the Best Life You Can!
Did you ever feel uneasy and felt that something is missing in your life? Chances are that you may have a good job, money, and close family and friends, and yet something is life is missing? Chances are you are not living your life on your core value, and your heart and mind are not in harmony.
We all have inner and personal core values inside of us. Many of us think we know our values but we have never really thought about it in detail. Instead of guessing our values, we can really spend little time to find out about who we are inside, what clicks us, and what makes us happy? By finding out answers to these questions we could be living a happier and meaningful life.
Are you ready to try? This exercise will take you a little time but in the end, it will help you live a better life. Let us look at three ways to find out your very own core values.
Step 1: Find a common values list.
Find the words that describe you. When people think of you, what do they say? Are you a leader? Are you funny? To help you get started let's look at some qualities that you may have, here are a few examples: Accomplishment, Success, Adventure, Calm, peace, Challenge, Community, Connection, Content, Continuous improvement, Creativity, Delight of being, joy or Democracy.
Step 2: Out of the above choices, pick 10-word values that best describes who you are.
It will be tough at first, as all values will seem to be fitting most of us. Narrow it down to 10 most appropriate values.
Step 3: Keep only five best values that describe you.
Eliminating five values from the above step. Now you will be left with the best of five values that describe who you really are inside.
Now every single step you take in your life, job, marriage, make sure it aligns with those five values and your heart and mind will be in sync. You will be living a much happier life, I know so.
Want to know more details about personal values? Please visit Heart and Mind where you can find more about improving your life by finding a balancing key area of your life, slowing down, and focusing on what is more important in your life.
Discover How to Identify Your Core Desires
Core Desires are those things you have your heart set on- what you want to be, have, or do most. One might think that identifying these Core Desires would be easy, but people often tell me, "I don't know what I want, please help me." This dilemma affects people of all age groups and crosses all political, social, and economic lines. People tell me that they don't know what they want to be, have, or do when they "grow up." They are still searching.
NO SENSE OF OBLIGATION
Core Desires aren't objectives imposed on you by others. They aren't "shoulds" or "ought-tos." Core Desires are those things you want with all your heart. They are deep, intense, and powerful longings. They are persistent, ever- demanding, heartfelt hunger,or yearnings that pierce you to the very core. One easy way to identify them is that they are always tied to a strong emotion in your heart- which is the reason anything in your life gets done at a high level of success, satisfaction, and fun. The conquering Force is the only force strong enough to sustain the persistent effort and focus necessary to realize your Core Desires.
However, people often do things because they feel they have to, ought to, or should, not because they truly want to. It could be because they feel a duty or obligation or because they fear punishment, ostracism, or disapproval.
Your life is too precious, and your sojourn here on earth too short, to waste your time and effort on things that are not rewarding and fulfilling. Yes, at times you must "do your duty" with family, friends, employers, and country-but duty is a pleasure when it aligns with desire.
We will always encounter some "have-tos" on our way to our "want-tos"-our Core Desires. That's a fact. Some duties may be unpleasant, difficult, expensive, or even painful. But you won't mind doing them if you are getting where you want to go.
If your heart is set on getting a college degree, you will have to take some courses you don't like. If you want to get into shape, you will have to exercise. If you want to lose weight, you will have to change your diet. If you want to own your own business, you will have to take certain risks. However, you won't mind the "have-tos" while pursuing your Core Desires because the rewards far exceed the price to be paid.
When the "have-tos" aren't getting you to your Core Desires, your life is less fulfilling. It may even be miserable. Only when you are pursuing your Core Desires- those things that inspire you and bring you joy-will you unleash the powerful Conquering Force within you. You will experience profound joy, peace, balance, serenity, and happiness. As you pursue the desires of your heart, you will be happier.
What makes work work? When you don't like it. When you love doing something, even if it is physically or emotionally demanding, you don't mind the effort required; in fact, you may call it fun.
To experience a life full of enjoyable activities, day in and day out, you must know what you really desire. If you think you want something, but deep down at the core that's not really what you want, you will never attain it.
WHAT DOES YOUR HEART DESIRE?
Do you know what you desire most in your heart? Do you have a sense of what it will take to realize those desires? Are you willing to pay the price? For example, suppose you want to become a certified public accountant. You know that you need to complete a course of study as well as pass certain tests to realize this desire. Now you need to ask, "Am I smart enough to learn what I need to know? Do I believe that the knowledge I need already exists somewhere in a class, a course, a book, a seminar, a mentor, or on the Internet?" If you answer these questions with a confident yes, you clearly have the ability to achieve your desire to become a CPA. Next, you will need to put your ability to learn anything together with the information that already exists. The catalyst for all this comes from your Core Desires. If you have had a goal for months or years and haven't learned what it takes to make it happen-let alone started working toward it-it is not a Core Desire.
Drilling down to your Core Desires and exposing them to the light of day can be, at least until you get the hang of it, a little difficult and emotionally frustrating because you are not used to dealing with your feelings at the core level. So I have designed a measurement device to help you identify your Core Desires. This simple assessment tool serves as a guide to finding and knowing your heart's desires-it causes you to reflect on everything you would like to have, do, experience, become, or achieve in many areas of your life. To help you assess the relative intensity of those desires, I have also designed the Core Desire Scale.
A GAME OF QUESTIONS
Identifying your Core Desires can be as easy as honestly answering these two Core Desire Search Questions:
Identifying your Core Desires can be as easy as honestly answering these two Core Desire Search Questions:
1. What would I like to have that I don't have now?
You might ask this question to help you uncover your Core Desires in different areas of your life, such as family relationships, finances, self-image, social relationships, mental self, and spiritual self. This list isn't all-inclusive, but it illustrates areas in which identifying your Core Desires could prove beneficial.
You might ask this question to help you uncover your Core Desires in different areas of your life, such as family relationships, finances, self-image, social relationships, mental self, and spiritual self. This list isn't all-inclusive, but it illustrates areas in which identifying your Core Desires could prove beneficial.
With this central question in mind, try answering these questions to learn what you truly desire most:
What would I love to do if I had no obligations? If only I had more time? What makes me very happy? What makes me laugh? What tugs at my heart or stirs my emotions? What am I pining away for? What would I love to do to help others? What characteristics would I like to have or strengthen? What do I want with or from my spouse and children? What do I want with or from others? What do my best friend and I do for fun? What did I use to do that I just can't do now? If I didn't have to worry about money, what would I do?
Each of these questions will elicit strong responses-but not all of them are Core Desires. Ask this next question about each desire you have just identified to narrow the field:
2. If I had that, was that, or could do that, what would it give me and how would it make me feel?
Asking this second question helps you get past superficial wants and wishes and helps you see what difference this desire, once fulfilled, might make in your life. But your search is not over; you must now measure the strength of these desires.
THE CORE DESIRE SCALE
You must be very sensitive to the intensity of your emotional responses to each of the Search Questions. This sensitivity will help you accurately measure the intensity of your desires. Intensity is everything as it relates to the achievement of your Core Desires.
You must be very sensitive to the intensity of your emotional responses to each of the Search Questions. This sensitivity will help you accurately measure the intensity of your desires. Intensity is everything as it relates to the achievement of your Core Desires.
What a difference a degree or two of intensity can make in the results you achieve for your efforts! If you want to cook some vegetables or power a steam locomotive, you must heat the water to 212F to make the water boil-211F is very close, but it won't do. Only when the temperature reaches 212F will the water begin to boil, bringing the results you want. If the temperature is between 95F and 106F, then the water is only lukewarm.
The seismograph, or Richter scale, measures the magnitude of an earthquake. The scale measures magnitudes of 0 to 10. Why is the difference between earthquakes measuring 5 and 7 on the Richter scale so dramatic? Because each number on the scale represents an earthquake ten times stronger than the number just beneath it. An earthquake registering a 7 on the Richter scale is ten times more powerful and ten times more destructive than one registering a 6. Imagine the power of the most powerful earthquake ever recorded-an 8.9 on the scale.
Just as the Richter scale measures an earthquake's intensity, so must you assess the intensity of your desires, feelings, and emotions by using the Core Desire Scale, which has a range from 1 to 100:
1 to 20: whims, passing fancies, wishes, gratifications, momentary pleasures, and dislikes
20 to 40: shoulds, oughts, duties, obligations, assignments, and extrinsic motivation
40 to 60: moderate-intensity desires, wants, interests, and needs
60 to 80: recurring desires, growing intensity, strong mind-sets, and a sense of duty
80 to 99: Steady desire; relevant, important initiatives; strong interest and motivation.
100: high intensity, relevancy, immediacy, heartfelt, passionate, and dead earnest. These are Core Desires.
The things you hate and would never do in a million years are 1s on the Core Desire Scale. Things that you are sort of interested in and may like to have-anything about which you feel halfhearted or not totally committed-are somewhere between 40 and 80 on the scale. These are like 5s on the Richter scale. Core Desires are always 100s.
The 100s on the Core Desire Scale are like the 10s on the Richter scale-far more powerful than a want or a wish. A 100 is infinitely more powerful than a 90 on the scale. When you pursue desires that fall below 90 and encounter the inevitable problems and barriers, you will find that you don't have the ability, or the drive, to move past them. You will get discouraged, give up, and hang negative labels on yourself. A 90 may get you 90 percent of the way there, but any desire that is not 100 will not have the ability to unleash your full internal power-the Conquering Force.
These desires that measure 100 are the source of your undying enthusiasm and discipline. They are the only desires that will provide you with the persistence, and ability, to overcome any and all obstacles. The intensity of these Core Desires will breathe life into your project, your family, your plan, your religion, your business, and your life.
Once you gain the skill of recognizing your 100s on the Core Desire Scale, you won't have to go through the search questions and scale exercise again, but sometimes you will have to repeat the search questions several times to get to your Core Desires. It's like drilling through layers of sediment to reach bedrock. You may hit bedrock right away, or it may take several tries. How quickly and accurately you identify your Core Desires depends solely on how quickly you get out of your head and into your heart.
THREE EXAMPLES
1. In the financial area of your life, what would you like to have that you don't have now?
If you answer, "To be financially independent," this may rate an 80 on the scale, but it is not your Core Desire. Now ask yourself the Search Question: "If I were financially independent, what would that give me that I don't have now?" You may answer, "It would give me the freedom to do what I please."
Using the Search Question again, ask yourself, "If I were free to do as I please, what would that freedom look like? What would that give me that I don't have now?" This is where people get stuck. Often they have a hard time clearly defining their answer, so they repeat themselves.
If you find yourself getting stuck, just ask the question in a different way: "If I were financially free, what would that give me that I want but don't have? What feelings would that give me?"
You may say, "Oh, I know! I could spend more time with my family!" Or "I could quit working at a job I hate." These emotional responses are your Core Desires. These are the 100s, and you should only spend your time and energy pursuing desires that hit the 100 mark on your Core Desire Scale.
If your answer were "If I were financially independent today, I'd be free from the stress and worry of not paying the bills," you'd not be far from your true Core Desire. But what words jumped out at you as you read that last answer? Were they paying the bills or free from the stress and worry?
If you chose the latter, you would be right on. However, there are many ways to reduce stress and spend more time with the family, even without being financially independent. Being financially independent would be nice, but what you really want is to be free from the worry, stress, or guilt of not being with your family as much as you would like. Knowing that stress and worry are the real issues could give you many more options for achieving those Core Desires.
It doesn't take being financially independent to be free of guilt or worry. You may need more money, but just how much more money would it take? You'd be surprised by what saving two hundred dollars a week-or month-would do. It might take some aggressive budgeting or reducing your car payments by selling your second car. Just changing your attitude can rid you of heaps of worry and stress.
2. In your social life, what would you like to have that you're not getting now?
You may answer, "I just love helping others, and I'd love to do that more." Again, this may be a 90 on your scale, but it is not your Core Desire. Ask yourself, "If I were able to help others more, what would that give me or make me feel that I am not getting or feeling now?" You may answer, "It makes me feel happy." Try asking the question again, phrasing it differently: "Why do I love helping others? What other feelings do I have when I am helping others?"
Keep digging, and keep asking the Search Question. You may find your answer with "I love helping others and putting smiles on their faces" or "helping others makes me feel good." Maybe even "I love the positive feedback I receive." All of these may be high on your scale, maybe even 90s, but they are not your Core Desire.
Ask yourself the Search Question this way: "Why do I love the positive feedback?" Or "Why does it make me feel good?" When you answer, "It makes me feel valuable, important, or appreciated," these are the real Core Desires.
Often people who don't feel valued or appreciated seek ways to meet those desires by helping others. No wonder they want to do it more: the real Core Desire is to feel needed by others. This is a definite 100 on the Core Desire Scale.
3. In the area of self-esteem and self-image, what would you like to have in your life that you don't have now?
You may say, "I'd like to be more confident around people." Though this may be true, it is not a Core Desire.
Ask the Search Question, "If I were more confident around people, what would that bring me that I am not currently getting in my life?" You answer, "I would be willing to speak up more and have my opinions heard." By continuing to ask the Search Question, you are getting closer to identifying your true Core Desire.
Keep asking yourself the question: "If I were willing to speak up and have my opinions heard, what would that give me that I don't have now?" You may say, "I wouldn't feel like I'd let others or myself down by not speaking my mind." You're getting higher on the scale, but you're not quite at 100.
"How do I feel when my opinions are not heard or when I am put down?" You may answer, "I feel bad and unimportant-like my opinions don't matter." These are strong emotions and evidence that you are on the right track.
When you ask the question "To whom do I want my opinions to matter most?" you may answer, "My spouse. Having my thoughts and feelings heard and validated by my spouse is very important to me." You have found your 100, the thing that matters most.
This desire has a lot to do with having a safe, uplifting, and intimate relationship and little to do with self- confidence. If your focus is on confidence, you have set the wrong goal. All your pursuits of confidence probably won't get you the validation you want from your partner.
This validation is gained much faster once you realize that confidence is not your Core Desire, but the need to have a healthy, happy, personally validating, I-feel- important relationship with your spouse. Many people are very confident in their work but feel deprived in their marriage or other personal relationships.
You may have to ask the question "If I had that, how would it make me feel?" several times or several ways until you've drilled down to the core and discovered your Core Desire. As you learn to become aware of your true feelings on any subject or issue, this exercise will become second nature. You are then in a position to live an authentic life.